My husband and I are empty-nesters. I've noticed that we communicate a lot but don't really 'talk'. I crave conversations that bring us closer and add a richness to our relationship that discussing the weather, vacations and our kids cannot.
About a month ago I had an idea - what if we asked each other a thought provoking question each night at dinner, then spent
a few minutes in satisfying conversation.
I wanted to make it easy and simple. I found a list of questions online, printed them out, cut them in individual strips and put them in a container on our dinner table. During dinner one of us pulls a question out and we talk about it. It is so simple, quick and has now become habitual - yet it has added a dimension to our interaction I have been craving.
Now if I don't initiate my husband will ask - "aren't we going to do the question thingies?"
This practice also gave me the idea to go deeper - a couple's devotional book to add to our
nightly dinner practice. This hasn't been a regular practice but we are making it more and more regular. Reading a Bible verse and faith centered reading together has been powerful.
This is NOT just for couples - it can be used with friends, other family members. When our adult son comes for dinner we engage him too - he loves it!
If you're interested in trying something like the questions or devotion my advice to you is just do it. Don't make a big deal out of it. One night say - oh look what I've got! Let's answer these fun questions. Like me, you will be surprised at the interesting doors this can open - directly into your loved one's hearts.
Happy connecting. xoxo Katherine